26. A new mom's guide to the Wonder Weeks - The reason your baby is cranky, clingy, and crying more than usual
0:00 Is your baby a little extra clingy, cranky or crying more than usual? They might be in a wonder week. Hey there friends. Welcome to the better postpartum podcast. I’m your host, Angel Swan, crunchy mom, coffee addict and postpartum doula turned new mom, 0:16 coach. 0:17 This podcast is your audio guide to not just surviving, but thriving during those early newborn days. If you want to care for yourself, your household and your baby with confidence, grab your earbuds because this is the only podcast that you need. So what do you say? Should we get started with today’s episode? Let’s do this. Hey, guys, before we get into this episode, I wanted to start a new little segment where I just read your review. Because your reviews are really moving this podcast along, I just ranked in the carrot the category for like best parenting podcasts and I have this ridiculous goal. 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Thank you again to Ashland for that review, and I’ll be reading some more in the next episodes coming up. So without further ado, let’s get into this episode. So let’s talk about the Wonder weeks. What are mental leaps? The Wonder weeks is a theory that all babies go through the same mental developmental milestones around the same time. These milestones are called mental leaps. And with each mental leap, your baby learns some new skills. All of a sudden, there are so many changes with your baby’s brain, and they’re processing things they’ve never been able to grasp before. Now during these leaps, they might be a clanging crank. And crying more than usual, those are the three C’s. learning new things is so hard, it really wears your baby out. This is all normal, and it’s to be expected. 5:12 I remember whenever Jenny was going through a fussy phase without fail, I would check my wonder weeks app. And sure enough, she was in a leap. It just gave me such peace of mind knowing that like, I’m not crazy, because she’s seemingly upset for no reason. But in reality, it’s just a normal part of your baby’s development. And as a new mom, that reassurance is so important to have, especially on those days when you feel like you’re trying everything and nothing that you’re doing is working. So when are the Wonder weeks leaps. Remember that this is an average all these things I’m about to go through. And your baby might have a leap one week before or even one week after these approximated leaps. Every baby is different. So now I’m just going to briefly walk you through each leap, there are 10 in total. But if you want the full scoop, you have got to get the Wonder weeks app or by their book, I really prefer the app. Now the first leap happens around five weeks. This is the leap of changing sensations. With this leap things are rapidly maturing like your baby’s metabolism, their intestines, their sensory organs. And you might notice that they’re starting to actually push their gas or poop out now, whereas before it had been a little more passive, your baby will also be much more interested in the things around them, they’ll be able to see a little bit better beyond a distance of like 20 to 30 centimeters, and your baby will become a little more social, and they’re going to respond to you and other people when you interact with them. The last big development is that your sweet little baby will be able to produce tears for the first time. So sad. It is so sad to see them cry those big kid tears, but it’s all just a part of them growing up. Now the second leap happens around eight weeks. This is the leap of patterns. I’m just going to quote directly from the Wonder weeks website because I really couldn’t think of a better way to say it. So from this leap, your baby no longer experiences the world as one entirety as soup, they start to differentiate mixed patterns in the soup. That’s the quote. So for example, your baby will discover their hands, they’re going to check them out, twist them and turn them to see what they’re all about. Next, your baby’s going to lose many automatic reflexes, and they’ll start to actually feel the things that they do with their body. As they move, they’re gonna start to look kind of stiff, like a little robot. But they’re the cutest robot, right. The third leap happens around 12 weeks. This is the leap of smooth transitions, you’ll notice that your baby’s movements become a little less stiff and robotic, and a little more smooth, they will also start to play with their vocal sounds, which is super cute and fun to see as a parent. The fourth leap happens around 19 weeks. This is the leap of events. Now, up until this leap, your baby could only perceive one smooth transition. Now they experience events with all of their senses, and can experience a sequence of smooth transitions. So some examples of this might be bouncing a ball, waving their hand, grabbing things with their hands. And during this leap, your baby will begin to love singing Nursery Rhymes along with like hand gestures. Okay, so next, the fifth leap happens around 26 weeks. This is the leap of relationships, how is one thing related to another? For now your baby will understand simple relationships. So think like, in or out, up or down, in or on that sort of thing. Very simple. Your baby might also begin to cry when they see that you get farther away from them. It’s a little bit hard on you as a parent, but again, it’s just all part of their development. It’s normal and knowing that it’s normal really, really helps you and your mental status. The six leap happens around 37 weeks, and this is a leap of categories. So for example, your baby will learn that a horse is not a dog, and a black and white cat isn’t a cow, and so on. This means you’ll want to be narrating things and compare things to your baby. And that’s going to help them understand these different categories. So talk to your baby as much as possible. Your baby is also going to get a kick out of going outside to explore the world. So take them outside, go for walks, let them roll around in the grass, whatever makes them happy. The seventh leap happens around 46 weeks. This is the leap of successions. So you’re Baby will learn to recognize and control the flow of events. 10:03 For example, eating some food with a spoon means that you grab the spoon, put some food on it, move it towards your face and put it in your mouth. Your baby won’t be able to do this whole sequence of events by themselves just yet, but they can understand like two to three parts in a row. If you were to let your baby try eating with a spoon right now, they would probably note most definitely make a big mess, even with the mess, so you can still let them practice, just make sure you have some patience. and protect your floors with a towel for easier cleanup. For sure, always protect the floors, right? Especially if you have carpet, Oh, don’t even get me started. The eighth leap happens around 55 weeks. This is the leap of programs, your baby will now be able to understand a full sequence of events. So not just two or three parts in a row, the whole thing, they will understand the whole process of eating with a spoon. Another good example of this is that they know the whole process of washing a dish. So when you wash the dishes, you take a dirty dish to the sink, grab a sponge, get some soap and water, scrub the dish, rinse off the dish and put it in the drying rack and then your dishes been washed. Your baby’s also going to love helping you in air quotes there with these little things and it’s good for them to practice along with you. I know it gets kind of messy, but the payoff is huge. When you let them work alongside you. They learn so much faster when you let them do the things with you. All right, the ninth leap is around 64 weeks. And this is the leap of principles. And this part is also quoted straight from the Wonder weeks website because I again couldn’t think of a better way to say it. So quote for the first time your child is now able to change programs he’s learned so far and quote. So they’ll love to play with this and experience consequences of their choices, your baby will start to do all kinds of physical antics, they’ll be really excited to play outdoors, they’ll become more skillful with their language, they’ll imitate others, they’ll roleplay they’re even starting to think ahead. And they might bug you until they get their way. So many other fun things that come along with this leap. I just could not even list them all. The 10th leap happens around 75 weeks. This is a leap of systems. At this point, your now toddler will be able to perceive and handle systems, they can choose how they want to act, whether it’s honest, helpful, patient, or the total opposite of those things, you’ll start to see the beginnings of your little one’s conscience, you might also notice that your little one will start testing their ability to manipulate you. I always say that it’s impossible to spoil a baby. And up until this point that has been true. However, with a toddler, you can 100% spoil them. And you should be mindful of upholding boundaries and teaching them values and norms that they’re going to carry with them through life. And so with that those are the 10 leaps, and you’ll have a full fledged toddler who Good luck with that toddlers are a handful. If you want a little cheat sheet, I did make a wonder week’s chart. So it’s just a quick and easy chart that shows you all the leaps at a glance. So I’ve got the leaps by number, I have the age at which those leaps happen. And then I have the leap of changing sensations patterns with transitions with like a brief description of what those are. So if you want to get that you can definitely go to the blog post for this podcast episode. Next, how do or how long do the mental leaps last, so some leaps are longer than others. But a mental leap typically lasts between three to six weeks. These weeks are a very challenging for both you and your baby. So it’s important to remember that this is temporary and it will pass with time. I really really love the Wonder weeks app because it is so helpful and reassuring. To have initely go and download it. I know that when we were going through these leaps with Jenny, the app just really gave me an amazing peace of mind. Just to know that a I wasn’t doing anything wrong, and B that there were some things that I could do to help her feel better, and to help us both get through it. So the Wonder weeks app. If you’re loving these insights about your baby, then you should definitely download the Wonder weeks app. It will notify you when your baby is about to enter a leap. It’ll give you information about what new skills 14:59 They’re learning behaviors that you can expect from them during these leaps. And they’ll give you tips to help you get through it. And you can download the Wonder weeks app in the Apple App Store or Google Play Store. Again, I will link to these in the blog post for this episode on my website. So that’s all that I have for you today, guys. I really would appreciate if you got value from this episode. If you’re loving what you’re hearing, please, please, please give me that slap the five star rating review. Leave me a written review. I really love hearing those love notes from you. 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