49. Quick Tip Tuesday: Should you get a second opinion? What to do if you don’t like the options given to you by your healthcare provider - fourth trimester, postpartum, new mom, & newborn baby tips
Have you ever left your doctor’s office feeling frustrated? Like they didn’t really listen to your concerns, or they’re pushing you to do something you just don’t want to do?
Maybe it’s time to get a second opinion!
Listen to today’s Quick Tip Tuesday episode to learn why it’s always a good idea to get a second opinion if you feel like something isn’t quite right.
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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION:
Hey friends, it is Quick Tip Tuesday where I answer a quick question submitted by you my dear podcast listeners. If you have a question you’d like me to answer on a Quick Tip Tuesday episode, simply go to my website, Angel swan.com/quick tip and submit your question. Today’s quick tip is how to know when you should get a second opinion. Okay? So I want you to know that just because some authority figure, your doctor, your pediatrician, your lactation consultant, whoever that just because they tell you there’s one way that you need to do something, it doesn’t mean that that’s true. You know, that old saying, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. Well, that rings true for just about anything, including all of the decisions that you make for your own well being and for your baby. So let me just give you a quick example. So I have a friend that just had a baby. And she called me sobbing because her nipples are purple. They were so bruised from breastfeeding with a bad latch. And she felt like she was doing all the things she was supposed to do. But it wasn’t working. And she didn’t know if she would be able to power through it and continue breastfeeding even though that’s what she really wants for her baby. And it was just so heartbreaking to hear that. So I went over to her house. I checked the latch, I helped her latch on one side that wasn’t too painful. And then on the other side, we tried some alternative feeding options like using a nipple shield, as like a little protective barrier when actually nursing at the breast. We also tried pumping and then feeding the baby from a syringe or a spoon. Just I just gave her other ways to give her baby breast milk that didn’t involve latching the baby directly to her breast because her nipples hurt so bad. And it was just stressing her out. And literally making her miserable and like questioning herself and her abilities to continue breastfeeding the way that she wanted to. So fast forward to like two days later. And I did encourage her to visit an ibclc, a Board Certified Lactation Consultant. So she she went and did that. And this LC told my friend, that she really shouldn’t be using a nipple shield because it will actually hinder the proper expression of the milk, and that the baby wouldn’t be getting as much milk that way. So then her supply would then diminish quickly. And when my friend told me that the LC told her she has to just continue watching the baby without a nipple shield if she wants to be successful. You guys that made me so mad. Okay? lactation consultants are supposed to be experts in all things infant feeding, they are supposed to know all of the different options because there are so many of them. And instead of giving my friend viable options for alternative feeding methods that weren’t gonna involve her breaking down and crying every time she fed her baby, because her nipples felt like they were about to just rip right off, this lactation consultant gave her one option, and then shamed her for using a nipple shield to give herself a break from all the pain. That is not cool. And there are so many ways to feed a baby your breast milk without latching them to the breast. And thank goodness that my friend had the sense to just take the LCSW advice with a grain of salt. And then went on to continue her alternative feeding methods until she can continue to latch without having so much pain, right? Because she literally just needed a break to heal. Because the more that you keep going with a bad latch, it’s just going to get worse. And
it’s it’s rough, okay. Because in the long run all of that pain, all of those negative emotions that you have around breastfeeding, while that’s happening that really adds up. And I see it all the time that when moms just try to power through something like that, they end up giving up breastfeeding altogether, because they feel like it’s not doable for them. It’s just too hard. So that is just one example of when you should get a second opinion. And for my friend, I was the one who gave her that second opinion because I am a professional postpartum doula I help with breastfeeding all the time. But if you ever go to your doctor for yourself, or you take your baby to the pediatrician or you see a lactation consultant, or literally anything that involves your well being or your baby’s well being, and you voiced your concerns, and your provider just tells you, this is the thing, this is the only way there are no other options. I want to encourage you to go and get a second opinion. Go and find a doctor who’s going to give you options, and they’re not gonna like push something on you that you don’t want to do. Because there is no one way to do something. And when you’re put in a box like that with no other options, that is really bad for you. It’s bad for your health. Your mental health is bad for your baby. It’s bad for basically everyone involved except for that Doctor Who gave you the bad advice, right? So trust your gut, if you feel like something isn’t quite white, quite right. REITs and your doctor, your provider, whoever isn’t listening to you, or they’re pushing you to do things that you don’t want to do, just walk away and get a second opinion. Okay, that ended up being a little longer than I planned. But I think it’s really important for you to hear that it is 100%. Okay, and encouraged to go and get a second opinion, a third opinion, whatever until you find a solution that works for you and your family. Okay, rant over. Now, if you’ve listened to my podcast this far, and you haven’t taken one minute to go and leave me a review on Apple podcasts, please, please go and do that for me today. If I’ve helped you in literally any way, if you’ve learned something new, the best way to support me and to support the show is to just leave me a five star rating. And if you really love me, leave me a couple words in a written review. It just takes a minute of your time. And it makes the biggest impact on my day. And it makes an impact on the day of another mom who found my podcast because you took that time to leave a review. That is all for today’s Quick Tip Tuesday. Thank you so much for listening. I will talk to you soon. Bye bye.